Paul doesn’t begin marriage instructions with effort.
He begins with a Person.

“Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church.”
Ephesians 5:25

Most people read that as a command.
Paul meant it as a direction.

You cannot love like Christ
unless you first see how Christ loves.

How does He love the church?

He doesn’t condemn her.
He doesn’t shame her.
He doesn’t rehearse her failures.
He calls her “altogether lovely” and “without spot” (Song of Songs 4:7).

So the focus is not
“Love harder.”
It’s
“Look at Him.”

When you behold His love,
your love begins to take on His shape.

And grace always produces more transformation
than pressure ever could.

We love better when we first look at how He loves us.