We talk a lot about “only date Christians.”
And yes—shared faith matters.
But the conversation is often oversimplified.

Let’s zoom out. Let’s look at Rahab.

Before she ever met an Israelite man…
before she ever married into the covenant people…
before her name appeared in Hebrews 11…

Rahab had already turned her heart toward the God of Israel.

She wasn’t a Jew.
She wasn’t raised in church.
She had no Bible study group.
But she believed.

“I know that the LORD has given you the land… for the LORD your God, He is God in heaven above and on earth beneath.”
— Joshua 2:9–11

That’s the turning point.

Rahab didn’t become a believer after marriage to “fit into the family.”
She already had a high opinion of God.
She had already said yes to Him in her heart.

And that’s the key we often overlook.

The Real Question for Christian Singles

It isn’t just:
“Is he/she a Christian?”

A better, deeper, more telling question is:
“What is this person’s opinion of God?”

Because…

Converting someone as a condition for marriage?

Sure, it can work—if the heart is already open.
If there's already a stirring.
If they are already honoring what God is doing in your life.

But converting someone who has no hunger for God?
No desire to know Him?
No respect for your faith?

That’s building a future on a wobbling table.

Misaligned principles become lifelong friction.

All marriages need a third party and that is Jesus.
Take away shared principles, shared rhythms, shared purpose…
and you will feel the weight of every difference.

Amos asks it simply:

“Can two walk together unless they are agreed?”
— Amos 3:3

A nonbeliever with a soft, humble view of God is closer to faith than a ‘Christian’ with a hard heart.

You know this person:
– Says they “believe”
– But never wants community
– Has a low opinion of God
– Resists discipleship
– Avoids accountability
– Rejects transformation

Spiritual titles don’t save relationships.
Spiritual hunger does.

Rahab had no title.
But she had hunger.

So what does this mean for someone dating?

Ask the question beneath the question:

“Does this person lean toward God…
or away from Him?”

Because a future marriage isn’t built on a checkbox.
It’s built on direction.

Your partner doesn’t need to be perfect.
But they do need to be turning toward the God who is shaping your life.

Rahab wasn’t a Jew—but she turned toward God.

Many “Christians” today are in church—but they turn away from Him.

That’s clarity.
That’s the filter.
That’s the difference.

Don’t look for a label.
Look for a heart that’s already opening toward God.
Two hearts turning toward the same Savior will naturally turn toward each other.